Pehli nazar mein aisa jaadu kar diya........
“Pehli nazar mein aisa jaadu kar diya “sings Atif Aslam in Race & Song becomes rage .But does Love at First Sight Happen? Question is as elusive as love itself .We don’t Know mainly because we don’t know when we fall for some person .or when we notice the special connection with that someone special.
Love at first sight may not be simply based on Physical Beauty .Because we come across many beautiful people but does not like them all. It is special connection we feel .in our heart we know this going to be special that’s the feeling we are talking about .Marriages are made in Heaven they say .Since we all are made in Couples & are bound to meet then Love at first sight is a reality .Most of the time we come across odd couple who does not look made of each other & wonder why they are together? ”He must be very rich” thought Comes to our mind...We can see many couples who physically doesn’t compliment each other & On our own decide that better looking one is really selfish & after their partner’s money .Doesn’t our this contention based on logic that people consider only looks while falling in love? But still claim “looks are not every thing” when questioned about our preferences? So even if we deny, inside we know that looks may or may not play major part in decision making.
Now we come to second theory of nature/Character /habits is what matters .At this point remember your best friend(s) who have stuck with you thru your thick & thin .If you closely look most of them will have qualities which you don t like Such as some may always comes late, some never keep the promise , some forgets your Birthday every year , some never call you for months some may be horrible at studies, some never got serious in life, some have friends whom you can not stand ,but you still love your friends ,because you accept them as they are . So its not qualities which makes people like each other.
Other illusion is about the ”Mr. Perfect” or “Ms. Perfect” ..This term should be always on individual basis & never on general basis .One person perfect for one may not be so for other .because couples should compliment each other qualities .so you can never generalize. So heartthrob of millions term should be have limited use of being used for complimenting the film stars. No one person can be liked by all the people however good may he be. I am restricting to people of being likable in a romantic way .
Now when & how people make decision about “Ms. Right”. when you are completely sure that other person is right one for you .This mostly depend on basic nature of person making decision .Even in day to day matters ,some people go by gut Feeling in there decision making while others do research, consult seniors(optional) and then take decision . Is that the difference between love at first sight & Falling in Love gradually .That some people conservative in their approach hence fail to recognize the special connection .or even worse does not want risk hence have wait & watch approach .
So ultimately there is no logic why we fall in love ,there may be instances when we spend so much time with individual .That we know him better than any one else. Still we don’t relate to him in a romantic way .But at a same time we fall for people we hardly know.
So it is not how much of time we spent together .or how well we know person either .it is just how I feel about someone .and that feeling is may be instant one or recognized over a period of time .Hence there can be Love at first sight .So start looking ….
PS: If you think writer is one of those desperate souls who eye each species of opposite sex as opportunity .Please don’t spread this fact. Try try but don’t cry.
Love at first sight may not be simply based on Physical Beauty .Because we come across many beautiful people but does not like them all. It is special connection we feel .in our heart we know this going to be special that’s the feeling we are talking about .Marriages are made in Heaven they say .Since we all are made in Couples & are bound to meet then Love at first sight is a reality .Most of the time we come across odd couple who does not look made of each other & wonder why they are together? ”He must be very rich” thought Comes to our mind...We can see many couples who physically doesn’t compliment each other & On our own decide that better looking one is really selfish & after their partner’s money .Doesn’t our this contention based on logic that people consider only looks while falling in love? But still claim “looks are not every thing” when questioned about our preferences? So even if we deny, inside we know that looks may or may not play major part in decision making.
Now we come to second theory of nature/Character /habits is what matters .At this point remember your best friend(s) who have stuck with you thru your thick & thin .If you closely look most of them will have qualities which you don t like Such as some may always comes late, some never keep the promise , some forgets your Birthday every year , some never call you for months some may be horrible at studies, some never got serious in life, some have friends whom you can not stand ,but you still love your friends ,because you accept them as they are . So its not qualities which makes people like each other.
Other illusion is about the ”Mr. Perfect” or “Ms. Perfect” ..This term should be always on individual basis & never on general basis .One person perfect for one may not be so for other .because couples should compliment each other qualities .so you can never generalize. So heartthrob of millions term should be have limited use of being used for complimenting the film stars. No one person can be liked by all the people however good may he be. I am restricting to people of being likable in a romantic way .
Now when & how people make decision about “Ms. Right”. when you are completely sure that other person is right one for you .This mostly depend on basic nature of person making decision .Even in day to day matters ,some people go by gut Feeling in there decision making while others do research, consult seniors(optional) and then take decision . Is that the difference between love at first sight & Falling in Love gradually .That some people conservative in their approach hence fail to recognize the special connection .or even worse does not want risk hence have wait & watch approach .
So ultimately there is no logic why we fall in love ,there may be instances when we spend so much time with individual .That we know him better than any one else. Still we don’t relate to him in a romantic way .But at a same time we fall for people we hardly know.
So it is not how much of time we spent together .or how well we know person either .it is just how I feel about someone .and that feeling is may be instant one or recognized over a period of time .Hence there can be Love at first sight .So start looking ….
PS: If you think writer is one of those desperate souls who eye each species of opposite sex as opportunity .Please don’t spread this fact. Try try but don’t cry.
